I agree on destroying old Victorian houses. If you want an open concept, buy newer or tear down a split level.
I do not understand people who think it’s necessary to spend so much money and look down on those who like to save. In the local moms group, there are women who are, e.g., social workers married to hourly factory workers (not shift supervisors or anything) with brand-new leased Hondas, new houses, talking about how it’s “tradition” to upgrade your engagement rings every ten years (not a situation where the first is a speck of diamond).
Or the teacher married to a data analyst (high school friend) who just bought a half-million dollar house in a LCOL area, have always driven new $30,000 cars, and then squeal about how hard it is to prove “enrichment” to their two kids. I dunno, maybe drive $25,000 cars instead or buy a house that’s not brand new, 4,000 square feet, and send your kids to enrichment camp or take them into the big city 2 hours away for the science museum, art museums, history museums, historical tours?
But I must be doing my life wrong, because that’s the message I hear all the time. My car is too old, his car is too small for our baby, we live in too small a place. I keep my mouth shut about their life choices (except now – thanks for the venting space) and don’t understand why mine are subject to such snobby criticism.